By Heidi Janit
Well, well, if you thought this post was about cookies on baking trays covered with sprinkles then you are sorely mistaken.
The kind of cookie I am talking about is the name some of us teach to our girls about their, umm, private parts down there.
Now, cookie can also be a term of endearment, as in “Hi my cookie, how are you today?”
Little girls who refer to their nether region as a cookie might not really take very well on being referred to by granny, auntie, teacher or ______’s mom as cookie!
There are an array of other names that little girls have been taught: tulip, flower, nonoo, and wait for it…. star.
Now, let’s get real. A tulip is a flower from Holland, they come in all different colours – I like the yellow ones best. A tulip is NOT a vagina.
Flowers are those gorgeous things that grow in your garden, you also find them at nurseries, in vases and anywhere else you may go to, like office blocks, parks and schools. Tulips are part of these wonders of flora.
Noonoo, in my opinion would serve a greater purpose if only directed at cute newborn babies or perhaps sometimes at puppies and kittens. As in “how cute is that puppy, what a little noonoo.” Although, to be honest, the phrase “noonoo” should never be used anywhere.
And the last time I checked the dictionary, a star is a big ball of gas somewhere up there in the great big universe. They are the twinking, shimmering lights we see in the sky at night.
Do you really want to get yourself into a situation where you are singing “Twinkle twinkle little star” to your 3 year old and she says “but my star down there does not twinkle”. Really??
Come on moms, I can bet my life on it that when the settlers came here and one of their daughters asked “What is this?” – (picture child pointing down there), the parent’s response was “It is called a vagina”. I doubt they said “Sweetheart, that is your very own tulip.”
We don’t tend to give nicknames to other body parts, legs are legs, arms are arms, fingers are fingers. So, why not just call a vagina a vagina? Why use nonsensical words to describe a vagina? These words can create confusion and embarrasment. These nonsensical words create a boundary for what is real, they create barricades in the way of open and honest conversations about body awareness and bodily functions.
When you eventually have “the talk” to your daughter about the birds and the bees and that she is one day going to have a period, are you going to say something like “Well, that thing there is not actually called a tulip, honey. It is actually called a vagina.” Surely it sounds a whole lot better saying that the way babies are made is when the man puts his penis into the woman’s vagina. Rather than “The man inserts his weener into the lady’s tulip/star/noonnoo/cookie/flower”???
Moms, teach your daughters the real names of their VAGINAS. Don’t be scared of the word. After all, it is not as if you don’t have one!